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The Chinese Farmer Parable: Maybe It’s Good, Maybe It’s Bad 0

Here is my version of the Chinese Farmer fable or parable that can help you to pull out of awfulizing about your life.

A farmer who was feeling down and out because his farm was not doing well went to the local guru to complain about his plight and seek advice. The guru’s response to his story: “Maybe it’s good. Maybe it’s bad.”

The farmer found the guru’s surprising “advice” disappointing and confusing.

He tossed and turned that night, unable to sleep for worry about his situation. His head spun imagining his family’s awful future.

When the farmer woke in the morning, . . .

8 Red Flags the Pregnancy is a Trap 66

Many a man has been snared by an announcement that a woman is pregnant with his child. How can you tell whether an “accidental” pregnancy is a baby trap or legit? How can you protect yourself from the pregnancy trap?

A pregnancy may be accidental-on-purpose. Like the one a woman was working on when her boyfriend walked in on her inseminating herself with semen from his used condom. (She had retrieved the condom out of the garbage can!)

I’m going to give you 8 pregnancy trap red flags and tell you how to protect yourself from being trapped by a pregnancy.

Rachel Dolezal─Putting a Face on Sociopathic Lying 0

Rachel Dolezal’s identity misrepresentation can’t be excused away by terms like transracial or imagining that she did it for the good of others.

Rachel is a case study in sociopathic lying.

Hope Solo --The Domestic Violence Double Standard 0

It’s time we called a foul on women abusing men and stop looking the other way or condoning the abuse.

This past year, there was a vociferous clamor to bring out the guillotine and cut off the career of any male athlete that was accused of any type of domestic violence.

Where are these same domestic violence advocates when it comes to Hope Solo? The USA women’s soccer star goalie was arrested for beating up her sister and 17-year-old nephew last June.

12 Types of Lies and Deception 1

How can you tell if someone is lying? Even worse, how can you tell if someone you love is lying to you? First: learn that there is more than one way to lie. 

“Everyone has a right to their own opinion,

but not to their own facts.”

—Ricky Gervais

Why are people drawn to not telling the truth? Abusive people often use any of a dozen types of lies to meet their self-centered objectives.

Click Read More for Why people lie and 12 Ways Abusive People Lie and Deceive 

What is Spiritual Abuse in Marriage and Relationships? 0

Spiritual abuse in marriage or other romantic relationships is a form of partner abuse that is less well known than partner abuse forms like physical domestic violence, but spiritual abuse is deeply painful. 

 “Body wounds heal and scar;
a wounded soul requires support and a lifetime to heal.”
─quote from a man who was spiritually abused by his partner