Abuse OF Men BY Women: It Happens, It Hurts, Let's Deal With It (Revised Second Edition)

Men can be on the receiving end of partner abuse!

It could be from an emotionally abusive girlfriend, a physically abusive wife, or a female partner who is demanding, controlling, manipulative or bullying using any of the 7 forms of intimate partner abuse.

Abuse OF Men BY Women: It Happens, It Hurts, Let's Deal With It is a Revised Second Edition that builds on the groundbreaking first edition with updated research, expanded examples, and important new material.

What Experts Are Saying: 

“Ann succeeds in making a complex, charged topic easily understandable. Her book’s structure is exceptionally clear — her approach balanced and grounded in reality." —Kristen Lewis, JD, LLM, Family Law Attorney, Canada

Abuse OF Men BY Women describes:

• What intimate partner abuse is
  
• What it looks like when a wife abuses her husband or a woman abuses her boyfriend using any of the seven forms of partner abuse: verbal, physical, sexual, financial, legal/administrative, spiritual, and emotional/psychological
• Why they do it
• How men get pulled into these dysfunctional relationships and why some stay
  
• The impact on abused men and steps for dealing with the situation they find themselves in
  

"By illuminating the reality of female-to-male partner abuse, Ann Silvers dismantles cultural myths that often dismiss or minimize these experiences, encourages empathy rather than skepticism, and offers a more complete understanding of how abuse functions across gender lines.

What sets her work apart is its combination of compassionate narrative and solid evidence. She makes complex issues accessible without oversimplifying them. This approach provides both validation for those who may have struggled to find a language for their pain and guidance for those in a position to help."—Denise A. Hines, PhD, Professor of Social Work, George Mason University

Who and How This Book Helps

Abuse OF Men BY Women: It Happens, It Hurts, Let's Deal With It:

• Arms men with the information they need to avoid getting hooked into bad relationships
• Offers refreshing recognition, understanding, and direction for abused men who are struggling to deal with, or recover from, difficult relationships with an abusive wife or girlfriend
• Helps women examine how they treat their husbands and boyfriends
• Provides a road map for men and women looking to help their brothers, fathers, sons, and friends who are being abused by women or teach them how to avoid getting pulled in by them
• Provides research-backed information and guidance for helping professionals (teachers, counselors, ministers, police officers)
• An eye-opener for all people who are willing to see what is really going on

“Ann does something incredibly rare: she tells the truth about abuse without agenda, without blame, and without turning this into a gender war. She combines deep compassion with rigorous research, and the result is a resource that validates men’s lived experiences while offering practical, grounded guidance.

What struck me most is how accessible and human this book is — Ann honors the complexity of people while staying laser-focused on safety, healing, and understanding. Whether you’re a man in the midst of partner abuse, someone who loves him, or a professional who wants to truly help, this book needs to be on your shelf.” —Andy Grant, Host of Real Men Feel

Details

Published: March 2026       Print version: 322 pages

Whether you are personally impacted or supporting someone who is, this book offers clarity, validation, and practical direction.

How to Purchase

Abuse OF Men BY Women is available worldwide in both eBook and print formats from most book retailers. 

EBook

You can click "Add to Cart" to purchase the eBook version directly from me. A download link will be emailed to you immediately after purchase.

It's also available through most online retailers, such as Apple and Amazon.

Print Paperback

The paperback is printed on demand and available through most book retailers. 

Here are a few options for purchasing one or a few copies: 

• Bookshop.org (US — supports independent bookstores)
• Amazon (Available in each country's store, including US, Canada, UK, Australia, Brazil, India, and more)
• Barnes & Noble (US)

Bulk discounts are available for US print orders of 10 or more copies, including purchases for educational programs, professional training, book groups, or organizational distribution. Reach out via the contact form to discuss bulk purchasing options.