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My products can help you help people.

I developed my products through many years of working with people as individuals, couples, families, and groups. Products have gone through many cycles of creation, testing, and re-creation as I have used them myself while working with clients.

I’ve invested a lot of time and mental energy into figuring out how to present complex concepts in an easy-to-grasp-and-use way. You can benefit from my hard work.

If you help people then my products can help you help those people.

You can use my books, card sets, recordings, and scripts in 3 ways:

for your own education,
in-session for education and skill building exercises, and/or
as a resource for the people you help to supplement the work you do together.

Who can use my products to enrich their work?

counselors
social workers
personal, relationship, divorce, and business coaches
psychiatric nurses
veterans affairs and military advocates
family law attorneys
health care providers
hypnotherapists
teachers
ministers, priests, rabbis, and other clergy
group leaders
journalists

Journalists

My blog and books are a great resource for your work. Exactly what will be helpful to you depends on your particular focus.

Take a look at the lists below to get some ideas for how I can help you with your projects.

Counselors, Social Workers, Nurses, and Coaches

Relationship skill building

Relationship Booster card set is helpful for exercises in session and for homework. It has a list of 40 relationship qualities/skills (trust, trustworthiness, respect, empathy . . .), 12 instruction cards (including exercises you can use), and a card for each relationship skill. Each skill card has a definition for the skill and a continuum labeling the “too little” and “too much” ends of the continuum. If you purchase a card set and extra list folders, you can use the card set over and over and give the lists to clients.

Emotion skill building

A quick look at Demystifying Emotions booklet gives you a way to present emotions so that they can be understood, processed, and used constructively

Emotional Intelligence Booster card set is helpful for exercises in session and for homework. It has a list of 101 emotions, instructions about I-messages, 11 instruction cards (including exercises you can use) and a card for each emotion. If you purchase a card set and extra list folders, you can use the card set over and over and give the lists to clients.

Anxiety

A quick look at Demystifying Emotions booklet gives you a way to present emotions so that they can be understood, processed, and used constructively.

A quick look at Anxiety booklet explains anxiety, the fear hierarchy, and anti-anxiety tools

You can refer clients to my hypnosis recordings for releasing emotions and reinforcing anti-anxiety skills. (I usually start people with Release and Refresh, Hypnosis for Letting Go and then in a week or so have them listen to Discover Calm, Anti-Anxiety Hypnosis).

Communication skill building

I developed a system for teaching the 3 communication skills: (1) Talking With Tact, (2) Listening That Works, and (3) Consultation aka Problem Solving or Decision Making.

Each skill has its own materials, so you can use the entire system or you can use any part of it.

(1) Talking With Tact

A big part of learning how to express yourself with tact involves understanding and labeling emotions, including anger. When I teach people how to express themselves with tact, I also teach them how to understand, label, and process their emotions.

A quick look at Demystifying Emotions booklet gives you a way to present emotions so that they can be understood, processed, and used constructively

A quick look at Talking With Tact booklet explains “owning” your thoughts and feelings, what tact is and how to use it.

Emotional Intelligence Booster card set is helpful for exercises in-session and for homework. It has a list of 101 emotions, instructions about I-messages, 11 instruction cards (including exercises you can use) and a card for each emotion. If you purchase a card set and extra list folders, you can use the card set over and over again and give the lists to clients.

(2) Listening That Works

I like teaching listening after teaching about emotions and talking with tact since it is difficult to be a good listener if you can’t label emotions well.

A quick look at Listening That Works booklet explains the goals of listening, the “Not Listening Skills” that we usually use when we should be listening, and how to listen effectively.

Conversation Booster card set is helpful for listening practice exercises. I learned quickly that it is more effective to give people an opportunity to practice communication skills with not-hot topics. You can instruct people to take a bunch of cards from the box to sort through until they come to a topic that they can talk about for a few minutes (avoiding hot topics). The topic then becomes the basis for practicing listening. [Note: For group work, sort through the cards and take out the ones that are too intimate of conversation for a group.]

(3) Consultation aka Problem Solving or Decision Making

I like teaching consultation after teaching talking with tact and listening that works, since those skills are needed to have the best consultations.
A quick look at Consultation aka Problem Solving or Decision Making booklet explains the 3+ steps for consultation. (Actually it’s 4 steps but I say 3+ because that 4th step is so crucial).

Relaxation

You can refer clients to my hypnosis recordings for the client to listen to at home, either when they have time in their day to relax or as they are going to sleep. (Many people report getting the best sleep they’ve had in years when they use my recordings. And I know from client reports that the hypnosis suggestions are effective even when listened to during sleep.)

Partner Abuse

My partner abuse booklets are a great reference for yourself and clients: A quick look at Partner Abuse and A quick look at Abuse OF Men BY Women

I used to think that abuse OF men didn’t happen very much and it wasn’t that important. I was wrong.

My full-sized book , Abuse OF Men BY Women: It Happens, It Hurts, And It's Time to Get Real About It, is a must-read to open your eyes about the very under-acknowledged subject of partner abuse where a woman is the source of the abuse and a man is the target. It is also the most comprehensive description of all 7 forms of partner abuse and why someone abuses (I list 72 reasons and explain them) that I have ever seen, making it helpful for working with any gender configuration of partner abuse.

Veteran’s Affairs and Military Advocates

All of my products listed above for Counselors, Social Workers, Nurses, and Coaches can also be used by Veteran’s Affairs and Military Advocates, but I want to point out in particular a need for education and resources about partner abuse when the target of the abuse is a man and the source of the abuse is a woman.

In working with service men in my counseling practice and speaking with counselors who work on bases, I realize that many service men are blind-sided by being abused by their female partner. My books can help.

My full-sized book, Abuse OF Men BY Women: It Happens, It Hurts, And It's Time to Get Real About It, is a must-read to open your eyes about the very under-acknowledged subject of partner abuse where a woman is the source of the abuse and a man is the target. It is also the most comprehensive description of all 7 forms of partner abuse and why someone abuses (I list 72 reasons and explain them) that I have ever seen, making it helpful for working with any gender configuration of partner abuse.

My partner abuse booklets are also a great reference for yourself and clients: A quick look at Partner Abuse and A quick look at Abuse OF Men BY Women

Family Law Attorneys

Understanding the dynamics of the relationship your client is in will make your work easier and help you get better results.

My books about partner abuse are an important resource for your own education and as a referral for clients.

My partner abuse booklets are a great reference for yourself and clients: A quick look at Partner Abuse and A quick look at Abuse OF Men BY Women

I used to think that abuse OF men didn’t happen very much and it wasn’t that important. I was wrong.

My full-sized book , Abuse OF Men BY Women: It Happens, It Hurts, And It's Time to Get Real About It, is a must-read to open your eyes about the very under-acknowledged subject of partner abuse where a woman is the source of the abuse and a man is the target. It is also the most comprehensive description of all 7 forms of partner abuse that I have ever seen, making it helpful for working with any gender configuration of partner abuse.

Health Care Providers

My anxiety-related books and recordings are a resource for your own education and as a referral for clients.

A quick look at Anxiety booklet explains anxiety, the fear hierarchy, and anti-anxiety tools.

Discover Calm, Anti-Anxiety Hypnosis can be listened to when patients have time to relax for about a half-hour or as they are going to sleep. Many people find that it helps them sleep. I know from client feedback that the relaxation skills suggestions are effective even if they fall asleep listening to the recording.

Hypnotherapists

I am both a counselor and a hypnotherapist. I have found that the combination of working with the conscious and the subconscious gives exponential gains to clients.

As a hypnotherapist, you can use my products to help you in your work in 3 ways:

1. You can use my hypnosis scripts in session.

2. Each script has a parallel recording that you can refer clients to for supplementing the work at home. (My results with clients greatly increased after I began offering recordings for home use so they could reinforce the subconscious learning.)

3. My products about emotions and anxiety can enhance the work you do with clients’ subconscious. You can use them for your own education, to improve your explanations to clients, and/or to refer clients to.

A quick look at Demystifying Emotions booklet presents emotions so that they can be understood, processed, and used constructively.

A quick look at Anxiety booklet explains anxiety, the fear hierarchy, thought stopping and other anti-anxiety tools.

Emotional Intelligence Booster card set is helpful for exercises in session and for homework. It has a list of 101 emotions, instructions about I-messages, 11 instruction cards (including exercises you can use) and a card for each emotion.

Teachers

I believe people would benefit greatly if they learned how to have healthy relationships before they have romantic relationships.

I have worked with many couples whose problems are based on what I call “messy build-up”: years of resentments and hurt feelings built-up from miscommunication. This is preventable.

Most people have never learned how to communicate well until they come to see me. If we teach young people how to deal with emotions – their own and other people’s – and teach them how to communicate, we can prevent a lot of messed up relationships.

My emotion skill building, relationship skill building, and communication skill building materials are great for using in the classroom. Each piece stands on its own or can be used in combination with other pieces.

Relationship skill building

Relationship Booster card set has a list of 40 relationship qualities/skills (trust, trustworthiness, respect, empathy . . .), 12 instruction cards (including exercises you can use), and a card for each relationship skill. Each skill card has a definition for the skill and a continuum labeling the “too little” and “too much” ends of the continuum. If you purchase a card set and extra list folders, you can use the card set over and over and give the lists to group members.

Emotion skill building

A quick look at Demystifying Emotions booklet gives you a way to present emotions so that they can be understood, processed, and used constructively.

Emotional Intelligence Booster card set is helpful for exercises in class and for homework. It has a list of 101 emotions, instructions about I-messages, 11 instruction cards (including exercises you can use) and a card for each emotion. If you purchase a card set and extra list folders, you can use the card set over and over and give the lists to students.

Communication skill building

I developed a system for teaching the 3 communication skills: (1) Talking With Tact, (2) Listening That Works, and (3) Consultation aka Problem Solving or Decision Making.

Each skill has its own materials, so you can use the entire system or you can use any part of it.

(1) Talking With Tact

A big part of learning how to express yourself with tact involves understanding and labeling emotions, including anger. When I teach people how to express themselves with tact, I also teach them how to understand, label, and process their emotions.

A quick look at Demystifying Emotions booklet gives you a way to present emotions so that they can be understood, processed, and used constructively

A quick look at Talking With Tact booklet explains “owning” your thoughts and feelings, what tact is and how to use it.

Emotional Intelligence Booster card set is helpful for exercises in-session and for homework. It has a list of 101 emotions, instructions about I-messages, 11 instruction cards (including exercises you can use) and a card for each emotion. If you purchase a card set and extra list folders, you can use the card set over and over again and give the lists to students.

(2) Listening That Works

I like teaching listening after teaching about emotions and talking with tact since it is difficult to be a good listener if you can’t label emotions well.

A quick look at Listening That Works booklet explains the goals of listening, the “Not Listening Skills” that we usually use when we should be listening, and how to listen effectively.

(3) Consultation aka Problem Solving or Decision Making

I like teaching consultation after teaching talking with tact and listening that works, since those skills are needed to have the best consultations.

A quick look at Consultation aka Problem Solving or Decision Making booklet explains the 3+ steps for consultation. (Actually it’s 4 steps but I say 3+ because that 4th step is so crucial).

Ministers, priests, rabbis, and other clergy and group leaders

My books can help you and your parishioners learn about the better and worse of relationships.

My card sets are great for working with groups. They create an opportunity for skill building and conversation.

Relationship skill building

Relationship Booster card set has a list of 40 relationship qualities/skills (trust, trustworthiness, respect, empathy . . .), 12 instruction cards (including exercises you can use), and a card for each relationship skill. Each skill card has a definition for the skill and a continuum labeling the “too little” and “too much” ends of the continuum. If you purchase a card set and extra list folders, you can use the card set over and over and give the lists to group members.

Emotion skill building

A quick look at Demystifying Emotions booklet gives you a way to present emotions so that they can be understood, processed, and used constructively.

Emotional Intelligence Booster card set has a list of 101 emotions, instructions about I-messages, 11 instruction cards (including exercises you can use) and a card for each emotion. If you purchase a card set and extra list folders, you can use the card set over and over and give the lists to group members.

Communication skill building

I developed a system for teaching the 3 communication skills: (1) Talking With Tact, (2) Listening That Works, and (3) Consultation aka Problem Solving or Decision Making.

Each skill has its own materials, so you can use the entire system or you can use any part of it.

(1) Talking With Tact

A big part of learning how to express yourself with tact involves understanding and labeling emotions, including anger. When I teach people how to express themselves with tact, I also teach them how to understand, label, and process their emotions.

A quick look at Demystifying Emotions booklet gives you a way to present emotions so that they can be understood, processed, and used constructively

A quick look at Talking With Tact booklet explains “owning” your thoughts and feelings, what tact is and how to use it.

Emotional Intelligence Booster card set is helpful for exercises in-session and for homework. It has a list of 101 emotions, instructions about I-messages, 11 instruction cards (including exercises you can use) and a card for each emotion. If you purchase a card set and extra list folders, you can use the card set over and over again and give the lists to students.

(2) Listening That Works

I like teaching listening after teaching about emotions and talking with tact since it is difficult to be a good listener if you can’t label emotions well.

A quick look at Listening That Works booklet explains the goals of listening, the “Not Listening Skills” that we usually use when we should be listening, and how to listen effectively.

(3) Consultation aka Problem Solving or Decision Making

I like teaching consultation after teaching talking with tact and listening that works, since those skills are needed to have the best consultations.

A quick look at Consultation aka Problem Solving or Decision Making booklet explains the 3+ steps for consultation. (Actually it’s 4 steps but I say 3+ because that 4th step is so crucial).

Partner Abuse

Partner abuse booklets that are a great reference for yourself and parishioners: A quick look at Partner Abuse and A quick look at Abuse OF Men BY Women.