Blog — abuse OF men BY women

Signs of an Emotionally Abusive Wife or Girlfriend 33

Are you living with an emotionally abusive wife, girlfriend, ex-wife, or ex-girlfriend?

Or dealing with a psychologically abusive female partner or ex?

Wondering, "Am I being emotionally abused?"

Is a man you know and care about suffering under the weight of emotional abuse from a woman?

This is how one man describes the relationship that nearly destroyed him:

“My ex-girlfriend was an emotional terrorist.”

Emotional and psychological abuses tear a person up inside.

Emotionally abused partners feel drained, distracted, and debilitated. 

What is Gaslighting Emotional Abuse? 0

Gaslighting is a crazy-making form of emotional abuse.

Gaslighting occurs when someone intentionally twists your perception of reality for their own gain.

Click the "Read More" tab for: 

• Gaslighting Meaning and Definition
• The Origins of the Term Gaslighting
• Why do Gaslighters Gaslight?
• 3 Toxic Tactics of Gaslighters: Denial, Trivializing, Withholding
• Denial Mind Games: How Gaslighters Twist Your Memories and Experiences
• Gaslighting infographic 

Does abuse of men by women really happen? What does it look like? 0

There are more abused men than you might think and there are more abusive women than you might think. 

The idea that women can't hurt men is a cultural myth.

Just because women on average are smaller than men on average doesn't mean women can't hurt men. It turns out -- size doesn't matter. (Well, to be more specific, size matters somewhat, but it isn't everything.)

A woman can hurt her male partner in all sorts of ways: psychologically, financially, spiritually, legally, physically, and sexually.

Yes, I said physically and sexually.

How Women Financially Abuse Men 15

When people focus on financial ways men abuse women, they often talk about men who exert control by limiting their partner’s ability to work or access to family money. While those same abuses may occur when the genders are flipped, there also are financial abuses that are available for women to use against men that take advantage of traditional gender roles.

Click Read More for financial abuse examples

Signs of a Physically Abusive Wife or Girlfriend 8

Physical abuse of a partner is the category of abuse that gets the most attention. When I became aware of abuse of men by women, I wasn’t expecting to see or hear much about physical abuse, but I have been surprised by how many examples of physical abuse by women I have encountered.

Men’s size and strength advantage over women has been among deciding factors that have led many people to conclude that physical abuse of a man by a woman is a non-issue. However, women who physically abuse men can overcome their strength disadvantage in many ways.

How women sexually abuse men 0

People can be shocked at the idea that women can sexually abuse men, but women can, and do, sexually abuse men.

It may look different than the classic sexual abuse of women by men, but it is sexual abuse when a woman uses sex in a controlling, demeaning, or punishing way, and/or uses sex to control, demean, or punish.

This post describes 10 ways a woman might sexually abuse a male partner.