Blog — emotional intelligence

What is Gratituding and How To Do It

Guilt vs Regret vs Shame: What's the Difference?

Shame, guilt, and regret are emotional siblings that help point out where we’re going wrong. They have the potential to make your life better and better. They also have the potential to weigh you down. 

This post will help you put your mistakes into perspective and turn associated guilt or regret into tools for upleveling your life. It will also help you let go of shame that binds you. 

Emotion Vocabulary: Why It Matters and How to Build It

Building emotion vocabulary is one of the easiest ways to increase emotional intelligence. Learn why having more words to describe feelings improves self-awareness, communication, and relationships, and discover practical ways to expand your emotion vocabulary using my 101 Emotions List and other resources.

Is The Way You are Listening Damaging Your Relationship?

Think you're listening—but your partner says they don’t feel heard? You might be using “Not Listening Skills” that frustrate your partner and escalate conflict instead of resolving it. This post breaks down common listening mistakes and points you toward an easy resource for upgrading your communication, repairing old hurts, and rebuilding connection.

Becoming Calm Anxiety Workbook and Journal

I know how bad anxiety feels, and how much it gets in the way of happiness, because I’ve experienced decades of anxiety myself. Before becoming a counselor, I stumbled along trying various ways to deal with my anxiety even though I didn’t know to give it that label. Now, I only rarely have a small pang of anxiety that I can easily manage.

This inside look at anxiety, coupled with what I’ve learned from helping hundreds of counseling clients overcome everything from generalized anxiety to fear of flying to PTSD, has given me unique insight into what anxiety feels like, what helps relieve it, and what helps build stress resilience.

I put what I've learned from all these experiences into a new book in the Silver Lining series -- Becoming Calm: Silver Lining Reduce Anxiety and Increase Stress Resilience Workbook and Journal.

What is Patience? Best Patience Quotes and Definitions

Patience is both a skill and a quality. It is the ability to wait for things. It isn’t a passive thing. It’s an active thing. It is the balance between the two extremes of impatience and complacency.

Click for definitions of patience and inspiring quotes to help you develop the skill of healthy patience.