Blog — relationships

What Are Personality Disorders? 10 PD Types + Key Insights 0

Labels like narcissist and borderline get used often—but what do these terms really mean? This guide explains what personality disorders are, how they're diagnosed, and how they affect relationships, treatment, and everyday life.

Abuse OF Men BY Women: Stats, Signs, Stories, and Support 4

Abuse of men by women is real—but often dismissed, ignored, or misunderstood. This hub post brings together a wide range of my blog posts on this difficult but important topic. Whether you're looking for signs of abuse, real-life stories from men who’ve lived it, stats and research, or tools for healing and support—you’ll find it here.

Use this guide to explore the topics that matter most to you, with quick links provided throughout for easy navigation.

You’ll also find links to my books and interviews on the subject, along with research from university professors and psychologists who are helping shine a light on this often-overlooked issue.

Four Fs of Stress and Trauma: Fight, Flight, Freeze, Fawn Explained 0

Have you ever found yourself reacting to stress in ways that seem out of your control? Those automatic responses can get you in trouble! They can mess with your relationships, work life, and personal well-being.

You are probably aware of the fight-or-flight emergency stress response concept, but may not know that 2-only list of instinctual reactions has been expanded as more research into stress has been performed.

As the list has grown, the F alliteration has remained. The expanded list includes Fight, Flight, Freeze, and Fawn. (Some have added others like Faint or Flop, and Friend. I'll explain why I don't typically include these when talking about the stress response.)

Recognizing the Four Fs stress response can empower you to better manage stress and make healthier choices in challenging situations.

Is The Way You are Listening Damaging Your Relationship? 0

Think you're listening—but your partner says they don’t feel heard? You might be using “Not Listening Skills” that frustrate your partner and escalate conflict instead of resolving it. This post breaks down common listening mistakes and points you toward an easy resource for upgrading your communication, repairing old hurts, and rebuilding connection.

Self-Help and Helper-Help Books by Therapist Ann Silvers 0

Through decades of working with counseling clients as individuals and couples, I've learned a lot about what helps people build healthier, happier, and more successful lives and relationships.

I've drawn on that experience to create self-help and helper-help books designed for individuals' personal use and as professional resources for teachers, counselors, therapists, and group leaders to assist their work with students and clients.

I'm up to 16 books published!

Topics include anxiety relief, what works and doesn't work in relationships, and emotional intelligence skills, among others.

Here are links for each. Some links are for the site you are currently on, and some are for Amazon. Listing books on Amazon allows each copy to be printed on demand when it is ordered—no matter where in the world you are.

The Amazon links are for Amazon.com (US), but the books are also available from Amazon in other countries, such as amazon.ca, amazon.au, etc.

Narcissist Traits and Red Flags: Signs You May Be Dealing with One 0

Narcissists can be charming at first—but underneath the surface are patterns of self-centeredness, manipulation, and emotional control. This post outlines key narcissistic traits, explores how they affect relationships, and helps you identify red flags before you're pulled in too deep.