7 Ways Women Abuse Men
Discussions about partner abuse typically focus only on men abusing women. But that is not the only gender-configuration for partner abuse. Partner abuse can happen in any gender mix within a couple, including female-to-male.
I created this blog post to curate others that detail abuse of men by women. I'll include links to posts that talk about what various forms of partner abuse look like when it is a wife or girlfriend abusing her husband, boyfriend, or ex. I'll also point you toward other posts on related topics such as why some women abuse their male partners.
What is Partner Abuse?
Partner abuse is a pattern of controlling, demeaning, and/or punishing behaviors and attitudes with a dating, cohabiting, or marriage partner, during or after the relationship. At its core, partner abuse is driven by self-centered motivations.
Individuals have methods of choice for demeaning, exerting control over, or punishing the targets of their abuse. The objective is to manipulate situations, the target of the abuse, and even other people relevant to the partner.
How Common is Abuse of Men by Women?
Women abuse their husbands and boyfriends more often than most people think. In the US, the numbers for men abused by female partners are quite similar to the numbers for women who are abused by male partners. Check out this post for details and references: How Many Men are Abused by Women?
What Does Abuse of Men by Women Look Like?
Some ways women abuse men are the same as those used in other partner abuse situations, such as isolating the target of abuse from friends and family.
Some ways are similar to those used by men against women but with a twist: women who are physically violent with their male partners are likely to prefer methods that overcome their size and strength disadvantages.
Some abusive behaviors of women are available to them for use on men specifically because of their genders. For example, an abusive woman can capture a man by getting pregnant with his child in a deceitful way.
7 Forms of Partner Abuse
Abusive behaviors may cross over different abuse types: seducing a man for malicious purposes using words and body language is verbally, sexually, and psychologically abusive.
Female abuse of male partners includes all the abuse categories:
My Books About Abuse of Men by Women
I've written a full-sized book that covers what abuse of men by women looks like, what it feels like for men who are abused by their girlfriends and wives, and how abusive women pull men in and keep them close. Abuse OF Men BY Women: It Happens, It Hurts, and It's Time to Get Real About It also provides guidance for abused men to think through their options on how to deal with their situation and recovery.
I also created a book that is a summary of topics covered in the larger book: A quick look at Abuse OF Men BY Women: A Concise Overview of Domestic Violence, Emotional Abuse, and the 5 Other Forms of Female on Male Spousal Abuse
- Ann Silvers